Finding the Small Victories
It’s a complete domino effect: when one thing doesn’t go right or meet our expectations, we tend to wonder what we should expect of anything else.
If one thing goes bad, we see Sour Patch Kids running all over our brains, and the bad outweighs the good to the point where we’re unable to see things for what they truly are.
And all too often, we let one little, one trivial thing that’s gone awry influence how we perceive ourselves.
As a perfectionist, you’ll have the tendency to hold yourself accountable for every, single, little detail that goes wrong, and you allow negative thoughts to consume you.
And I’ll be the first to admit I whisper to myself at least 39 times a day, “I need to get my life together.” This happens because I allow a mediocre incident that happened in my day to influence how the rest of my day progresses.
And I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had to shake myself, and remind myself that not every single aspect of my life is all bad.
Yes, my dating life may suck, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a network of people who love me unconditionally.
Yes, my coworkers may irk my very last nerve, but at least I enjoy what I do for a living and I’m not out here nickel and diming people.
Yes, everyone in my house may be screaming to the top of their lungs for absolutely no reason, and now I have a headache, but at least I have a roof over my head and some place to lay my head at night.
All too often, we subject ourselves to artificial happiness in the pursuit of finding true happinesses.
But the mistake we tend to make is that we strive for happiness and trying to “have it all” when the reality is that we never will, and that destroys our egos.
We will often times wonder when we see a social media post of a former friend, colleague, or flame and wonder, “What do they have that I don’t?”
It’s so easy to say, “I’d be more happy if,” you had her job, his car, her body, their house, that picture perfect family. And it’s hard to realize that your own joy lies outside of how you’re comparing your life to your peers.
We will never be fully satisfied knowing there is something bigger, and better out there. Why do you think you ditched your iPhone 4s, switched to the Galaxy, only to come back to #TeamiPhone when the 6s Plus came out, and now you plan on trading it in for the latest iPhone 8 or iPhone X, or whatever is coming out next.
To your peers, you could be overwhelmed with success, but you internally feel unfulfilled. This is the point where you’ve more than likely became so comfortable with your situation you’re afraid to progress and accept change. Change can be painful, but there’s more pain staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong than growing out of your comfort zone.
Becoming and being content is about understanding that with life, there comes the progressive highs only to be followed by the lows, but once you learn to accept those lows, you’ll learn to never allow your sadness to weigh down your chances of finding the small victories that lead to eventual happiness.